Done with the online dating scene. It’s not for me. I’m a visual person and I could have possibly missed some men by swiping left but it is what it is and I’m letting the online dating thing go. I don’t see how I would connect with a man where every picture is of him doing an activity, my circle of ladies call them the bro pics. Granted my own pictures were lame too. Picture of my toes peeking out of a tent. Picture of me and boy George, the dog. I never have pics of me and the kids because of the perv factor.
So last weekend I went to see someone sing at the’ hip to me little place in town’. I ate dinner at the bar waiting for my girlfriend to show up. There were a few older single men talking about their online profiles and dating, I couldn’t help but overhear! One of them starts chatting me up acting all interested. Asking the pointed questions as if I’m up for auction. What do you do for a living, divorced? Never married? Kids? Oh, why yes, three and my youngest is 11. Oh, you’re from Switzerland but you don’t sound like you are….yada, yada.
The seemingly interested guy goes back to his friends and I faintly hear ‘deal breaker’. I know what they’re talking about! I have a child that is still at home part time. I laugh because what they don’t realize is that I’m not interested in them because of their attitude! I was just practicing my small talk skills!
Maybe I should put the my profile here. This is what I had on my online profile.
“I enjoy hiking in the mountains and being in nature. Mushroom hunting is one of my favorite activities in the fall. I relish the solitude of breaking trail cross country skiing, gliding over the snow to someplace, untouched. I stay informed on current events, appreciate art, love to dance at small music venues, socializing with friends and volunteering. I’ve created my own tradition of waking up on my birthday every year sleeping on the earth without a phone or computer.
I love to laugh….yada, yada”
That’s it, and pretty much nothing of substance floated my way with a click or a swipe and that’s why I’ve resigned myself to continue to fully participate in my life as it is. If some interesting man shows up great, if not, ok that’s the way it is right now. I have a rich life, kids, grandkids, friends, colleagues, and the serendipitous adventure that awaits every one of us with each new day.