I’ve been online dating this past month because spring is here! Here’s my take away from a woman of a certain age, 54. Men in their 50’s are generally seeking partners who are in the mid 30’s to mid 40’s. This of course is not a scientific survey just my observations. Maybe one out of fifty men had the settings up to his own age. I find that interesting but whatever, I tried a month on Match and a month on E-harmony. Match had a good number of available single men my age but again they were looking for someone younger and E-harmony didn’t have many men in my area so that was a complete dud as far as my experience is concerned.
I met a man for a coffee date from Match, he told me he was 59 but when I googled his name I found out he was 61. Yes, I googled him before meeting! The date was ok, we didn’t have anything in common except our professions. He spoke about money and I wanted to talk about making time for hiking this summer. Different values, interests, and no chemistry whatsoever. I quit Match and Eharmony a few days ago and now giving Farmer’s Only a try. I live in a rural area and why not try something completely different and see what happens?
It would be wonderful to meet a man on a hiking trail that’s as excited about the beauty around him as I am but talk about a needle in the haystack. Maybe I’ll meet him when I’m out dancing at the local venue. A friend a while back said it’s a number’s game. Whether online or out and about. Being available and creating possibilities ups the likelihood of meeting a potential partner. In the meantime you’ll find me out dancing and hiking. I want to keep moving forward and not back. Looking up at the beauty which surrounds me and down at my feet to stay grounded.
I continue to do my inner work, I’m open hearted, optimistic and willing to be vulnerable. After all, spring is here!