Got Something to Say
Oh, yes, I have something to say about dating in midlife. I’m not sure what that even means but here it is.I have friends, cross section, men, women, straight, not so straight, tall, short, my point is, there is no point we are all seeking to connect. Personally I have a list of whatI would like to have in a partner. It’s a long list, but I’m trying to narrow it d
own to 5 points. 1. Be international 2. Embrace your past 3. Love nature 4. Love music 5 Love me.
The international can take many forms and for me it’ll just be a feeling of what that is. Whether being born outside the states, a world traveler, or someone who is able to have a world view on things. Embracing one’s past isn’t about bitterness or regret for me it’s about learning, growing and becoming better at who and what we are. Without nature we are nothing. I can’t even express, contemplate or emphasize with that enough so I’ll leave it be. Music is the soul of the collective. It’s a way of expression and connection. Loving me, connecting with me is about accepting me.
This past week I’ve had dates with a 37 year old and a 99 year old. I’m not even kidding about thse ages. I enjoyed my time with each of them. Both men were world travelers, loved to tell their stories and were interested in mine, Our connection was to be in each other’s company, and dine together, walk home together, and be together. Community the missing link of what is and isn’t.
I learned this weekend that it’s important to renew my passport and get on the road. I also learned to be open minded and cross boundaries which I place on myself for no reason. Lastly, I learned that age doesn’t matter. There are old souls and new souls and even all of that is a bunch of crap because we are who we are and we connect with whomever we connect with.
One of my best friends is a 26 year old woman. We connect for a myriad of reasons and it struck a hilarity in us that we were f
ancying men within a year of one another. The mid single of 36-46 is vast.